friends in a divorce

One thing I learned super fast when I got my divorce is you find out who your true friends are. Well there are really 3 types when you are going through one. There is your party people who are glad you can finally get out and live it up with them again. Some of them just want to hang out and help you get your mind off of it, some just want the nookie b/c now they think it's ok to go for it, and the others just want to relive the glory days. It's a mix of good intentions and selfishness gone arrye.

The next group is the ones who feel the need to take a side but if it's not yours they play the part to garner info. Crazy huh, well they are the worst. Some of the people that did this to me didn't know what really happened with me. Didn't know about all of the mental abuse and cheating my ex put me though, I didn't think it was their business and I didn't want to put anyone in the position to feel like they had to pick a side. It's a shame he didn't think the same way and an even bigger shame the old friends showed their true colors. I guess it's better I know b/c I don't waste time on people who are going to lie to me and act like a high school drama queen, that's not to say it doesn't still sting a little.

Then the third type is your true friends, these are the people you know you can take your emotion too and walk away feeling better and it ends with them. Nothing gets gossiped about, they don't want anything in return aside from just being there to help, and you know when you really need them, they will be there. That's the next best thing to a divorce recovery therapist, well I guess better b/c you don't have to pay for that shoulder to cry on. I was glad I had those people in my life and I hope I can pay it forward to others divorce or not. Broken families are the new enemy it's an awful pain that no one should have to ever feel, but some people will. I hope all of my married friends treat their marriage like a garden, if you don't water it, it's not going to grow. My divorced or getting divorced friends...hold on, the pain doesn't last forever. It sucks, it's not fair, there isn't anything that is going to take it away but time. Try to see the good in the new path that you are on and make realistic goals and plan on how you are going to obtain them.