My dad told me years ago when I was a tween that if I had to show off my goodies to get a guy they were not worth having. He said to respect myself and my body and I would eventually find the right guy that would do the same in return. I thought about that statement when I was watching a make over show at my fiance's house Saturday morning. They were making over a mom who was in her mid 40's but insisted on dressing like she was in her late teens. She was thin and had the Erin Brokavich mentality of if you got it flaunt it, but really she just looked dumb. Sorry it's true. A person can try too hard and her excuse was just b/c she was older didn't mean she has to dress like an old lady. Well, no one says you have to dress like your granny but when your daughter is so embarrassed to be seen with you b/c of how you dress to the point she is putting you on TV to have some one show you....you might have a problem. I guess this brings me to, be the example you want your daughter to become. If you don't want your daughter dressing like a slut...then don't set that example. Teach her instead that self confidence comes from the inside not what you are wearing. Otherwise she will be sneaking out of the house with low cut tops on, booty shorts, and will be attracting the wrong kind of attention. It can lead her in life to feel like she has to dumb herself down to be happy.
Another thing worth considering aside from being that positive role model to your daughter and being the person you want her to become is daughters are also becoming angry towards their mothers appearance b/c they feel it sparks competition and gives teen girls an unfortunate message about "how the mom feels about
herself, her age and her own insecurities about appearance," .
"That's a message that has me very concerned: It's a youth-worshiping
philosophy and suggests that the mom isn't comfortable with getting
older."
Its ok to look sophisticated and elegant, but come on ladies...cute is teenagers. Yes when the time comes I will be getting a lil bit of botox...so what, I don't think that is a big deal, but I am not going to dress below my age b/c when I was in my 20's and saw someone older then 35 dressing like a teenager I just shook my head and reminded myself why I don't want to look like that.
Basically, be the woman you want your daughter to become...if you have a son be the woman you want your son to marry....If you have no kids stop dressing like a retard! check this link out...
http://www.oprah.com/style/Dressing-for-Your-Age/6#slideshow
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